Focus on you Health, not your weight

 FOCUS ON YOUR HEALTH, NOT YOUR                               WEIGHT

 If you are like so many others you might be asking “if I don’t diet or focus on weight, then what?”

That is a completely warranted and understandable concern given our culture and the world we live in. Diet related thought patterns have become the cultural norm. I think many of us feel like if we aren’t hyper focused on our weight and obsessing about our body size then we are letting ourselves go and giving up on health, but the exact opposite is true.

A big part of the problem with our approach to health and wellness is our all or nothing approach to it. Culture and media are really good at reinforcing this black and white thinking too. We are either on a diet or off (for many over and over and over again), eating “good” foods or “bad” foods, on the exercise bandwagon or not moving at all, eating kale or candy. There isn’t a whole lot of middle ground for many of us when it comes to food and movement, but the middle ground is actually where the sweet spot is.

This all or nothing way of thinking, although very common, is not a realistic or helpful way of thinking about health and food. From a psychological perspective this way of thinking is is known as a cognitive distortion – an unconscious way of thinking that is not based in reality. We may think that approaching health in this way is helpful, but actually in the end it undermines healthy change instead of promoting it. When we set ourselves up with rigid, back-and-white rules we leave no room for error, which is inevitable. By changing our extreme (all or nothing) approach to food and movement, we can actually take better care of ourselves for the long term with positive health markers to show for it.

 If we don’t focus on the scale what do we focus on? RIGHT?  The answer is to focus on habits and behaviors, health, and well-being, not just physical, but mental and emotional too. Encouraging a shift in focus of trying to change or shrink our bodies at all costs to a focus on respecting and taking care of our bodies.

So how do you find wellness without focusing on weight and find the sweet spot – not too extreme, and not feeling like you are giving up? Becoming more acquainted with the principles of Intuitive eating  is a great place to start. It is a process of unlearning and relearning new ways to care for yourself and listening to your body’s innate wisdom, instead of the external cues of dieting and focusing on weight.

Here are some intentions/goals you could make that are in line with this idea of wellness, while not focused on weight.

• Throw out the scale – for many people they say the scale rules their emotions. Giving them an inkling of hope when it cooperates and creating a downward spiral of negative emotions when it doesn’t. If your are someone who is negatively impacted by the scale…stay off of it and if you can’t, get rid of it completely. It can seem strange in the beginning if it’s been a long time habit, but very freeing. That number doesn’t define your worth or well-being.

• Find ways to move that make you happy and make you feel powerful and strong vs. moving to burn calories or because you are “supposed” to. Finding joy in movement is one of the best things you can do to help you incorporate it as a lasting habit.

• Take time to feed yourself regularly, balanced meals throughout the day so that you don’t get to the point of feeling absolutely famished and end up bingeing or overeating at night.

• Make sleep a priority. We know how much better and more capable we feel after a good night’s sleep. On the flip side, not getting good sleep either occasionally or on a regular basis feels horrible and impacts every aspect of our lives. Not only do most of us feel cranky and feel like we are in a fog, sleep is one of the strongest predictors of whether or not we eat well and exercise. Paying attention to our bodies signals for needing rest or sleep and honoring those (instead of just muscling through) and having regular bedtime rituals so that you can sleep better are two ways to get better rest. Sleep isn’t an extra or a luxury, it’s a must.

• Notice how you feel after a meal. Do you feel like you have the energy to continue through the day or do you feel like you need a nap? Does your stomach hurt or do you feel comfortable? Do you still feel hungry (a sign that you might have had more of a snack than a meal)? How we feel after a meal is impacted not only by what we eat but also how we eat, for instance whether we wolf down a meal on the way to a meeting or find an opportunity to eat in a more peaceful and slower way. Noting this post-meal feeling is a way of becoming more intuitive about our eating and figuring out ways to eat that give us energy and allow us to function at our best.

• Find other ways to cope with stress that don’t involve food. We all eat emotionally from time to time and it isn’t all bad, but it can become a negative thing and create even more issues for us when it is our only way of coping. Taking time out of our life to de-stress on a regular basis is really important. Some examples might include: walking the dog and noticing the “little things” like the trees, flowers, etc., read a good book, listen to some soothing music, take a nap (even a quick one), take a few deep breaths or spend just a few minutes a day meditating, do yoga, or come up with your own list of things that help to lower your stress level. What does that look like for you? Again, it isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity and it matters.

• Take a little time on the weekends to plan meals and shop for the week ahead so that you are prepared. I help clients set intentions around meal planning and shopping and creating a system to make the process easier. Not planning and being prepared is one of the most common things I see with clients that brings them stress and sabotages their efforts to eat in a healthier way.

• Turn off the TV and put the phones and devices away during meals. Being fully present at meals and not being distracted can make meals more enjoyable and satisfying.

• Include a vegetable at breakfast 2 times per week.

• Make dinner at home 3 times per week.

10 Things Your Body Will Tell You When You’re Healthy

 Although many of us see the scale as the end all, be all measure of progress and health, it is actually a poor measure of overall health and can lead us away from adopting healthier habits. Here are a few things that your body will share with you when it’s feeling healthy, and when you listen closely:

1. Your mood improves! 
2. Your clothes fit better and they feel good on your skin.
3. You may sleep sounder at night. Imagine waking up refreshed and rejuvenated instead of tired and depressed, or guilty and judgmental.
4. You feel stronger and more confident.
5. You have more energy to do things that bring you joy.
6. Your health markers are better. Your blood pressure, cholesterol and blood sugar levels are moving in the right direction.
7. There are fewer aches and pains throughout your body. 
8. You are more likely to try new things, take risks. How about trying Pickle Ball? Kayaking?
9. Stress and anxiety levels decrease, because your mood and body are beginning to feel better.
10. You spend less time and energy obsessing over food and weight.
    • Diets don’t work. 95% of dieters regain their weight and maybe even more with 3 years of the diet. Let’s not waste any more time thinking about “the next one” and focus more on what the body is telling us.
    • Diet and restriction lower metabolism, decreases your satiety hormone, increases your hunger hormone and triggers your brain to obsess about what you are not allowed to have.

So, there you go. A good solid list of multiple things you can do that we know can improve our health and that take the focus off pounds lost and onto habits and a few ways your body will let you know you are on track that are far better than the number on the scale.

Ultimately all these things I suggested are about taking better care of ourselves, which is often at the root of dissatisfaction with ourselves and our habits. We have less of an eating or food problem and more of a lack of self care problem in my opinion. Many of our issues and concerns could be improved greatly by simply incorporating more opportunities for basic self care.

How is your self care? Which of these things I suggested could you incorporate into your life? You might pick one to work on each week for the next month to start and just notice how it impacts your overall health and well-being. You are more than worth it. Take it slow... but don't ever feel overwhelmed and not know where to start.

 Always take it one day at the time!!

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